This is episode number 136 of the Absolute Mind podcast and this show is all about dealing with fear and unhelpful emotions

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So let’s get to some tips and understanding about dealing with general fear.


The very fact that you’re listening to his podcast means that you should have awareness of the U have some irrational fears or unhelpful thoughts that you’d like to deal with. The key here is to be aware that fear is just a feeling. That sounds strange but we’ve been having them for years, and feelings perfectly safe.

What Scares You?

This is time to identify and understand what is specifically that scares you. think about the situations where you have become fearful and emotions begin to run high, and see if you can notice patterns and really identify what is the actually scares you.

Talk to Someone

Here is an interesting angle. If you’re fearful about something you have some unwanted emotions, open up and speak to someone you trust them like. The interesting part is if you feel silly by talking about these fears then perhaps you already know, that there is nothing to fear because even you know it’s rational. however, running it passed someone else can really help you give perspective.

In fact, you are able to get some perspective even on your own. Think about someone who you like and know and someone who is on the surface at least a balanced thinker. Ask yourself, “what would x  be thinking about the situation?”

This technique is a wafer you to delve into another person’s perspective. It can be remarkable how different the answer becomes. Ultimately this will allow you to begin to relieve some of those fears.

You Are What You Eat

I hate to always bring diet into psychological and emotional issues. But there is a direct correlation to how a person feels and what is they put into their body. have a think, is your body in a state of nourishment where it’s able to repair and look after itself? Or is your body being challenged in battle, bombarded every day with foods that it’s difficult to process and rebuild from?

The body is an amazing thing, but the body and mind are one thing. We all know that what we eat we become. I haven’t met a balanced controlled thinker who lived on beige or fried foods, sugary snacks and energy drinks. The two simply don’t go hand-in-hand.


I know I sort of touched on caffeine in the paragraph above, by really can’t say this enough. Anything that stimulates you, caffeine, energy drinks etc, in dramatically affect the way a person feels and thinks. caffeine is a known mental stimulant, and if you’re in the habit of thinking negatively or fearfully, then caffeine will only exacerbate the issue. I’m not suggesting that caffeine is the cause. But absurdly suggesting that if you are feeling anxious fearful or full of emotion, the caffeine can have a negative effect.

Use The Right Questions

If you’ve heard this podcast before, you’ll know how much I recommend using an understanding the right kinds of questions when dealing with any issue.

Let’s dive into a little touch of science. whenever you ask yourself a question, whatever it is, there’s a part of your brain (Reticular Activating System) that seeks to answer your questions and make you right.

Let me give you an example. Perhaps you’re talking to a friend about an old 1980s movie, the name of the main actor simply slips out of your mind, you’re going over and over saying what’s the guy’s name, what was he called again?….Your memory seems to have failed you, but wait a minute something very strange happens hours and sometimes even days later. The answer seems to appear like a bolt out of the blue. This is your RAS answering a question that you’ve asked.

Your memory seems to have failed you, but wait a minute something very strange happens hours and sometimes even days later. The answer seems to appear like a bolt out of the blue. This is your RAS answering a question that you’ve asked.

So it’s time to start to get clever with your questions. questions like:

What can I do today that will make me feel less fearful?
What resources can I find inside to help me deal with this irrational fear?
What small dietary changes can I make right now that will allow me to feel less fearful?

questions really are the answer, so really have a think about the types of questions you’re asking yourself. Questions like will this ever go away, can I take this much more, is this can get worse, these are all examples of questions that now you understand how your brain works will be more can prove disastrous.

It’s time for you to take control of your own questions and therefore your own emotions. I’m not suggesting the questions are the be all and end all. But I am suggesting it’s something you can start to do right now and have a dramatic effect on the way you feel.